When did Prom become a common girl's experience? A viral tikkok sheds light on bullying over a dress

A prom dress from the high school should be joy, self-confidence and self-expression symbolization-but it became a nightmare for a nightmare of bullying and harassment. In a now viral Tiktok, Kathy Labedzki-Pierga, owner of Kasias Boutique, shared an alarming story about a girl who was exposed to tireless bullying only to buy a sparkling dress for buying a purple. And the story about it was told in a viral TIKTOK video, now has 7.6 -m video views.

Labedzki-Pierga revealed that another student who had admired but had never bought the same dress, indignantly posted a picture of her newly bought dress on a School Facebook page, which devoted itself to preventing duplex look. But it wasn't just a high school drama; The other girl's mother escalated the situation by repeatedly calling the boutique, the dress returned and even threatened to involve her husband.

“You have to take this dress back from this girl because my daughter wanted this dress,” the mother insisted. When Labedzki-Pierga refused, the situation dissolved. The girl who bought the dress was the goal of bullying, reporting that her car and her house had been an egiting.

“At this point I have around the life of this girl because I heard that you have already managed to draw your car and house,” said Labedzki-Pierga in her video. “You are, get real. It's not that serious. “

While the incident triggered outrage and an expression of the support for the bullied teenager, it also raised an important question: Why does the common girl culture still bloom and what can parents do to stop it?

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Include inclusion, not my girls

The controversy to the viral prom dress underlines the urgent need to raise girls who raise each other instead of tearing each other down. Labedzki-Pierga said: “When adults harass adults, why are we surprised that this happens in the high school?”

At Mollly, we believe in promoting friendliness and inclusiveness in girls, and research show that parents play a key role. In the article “Breeding of girls who move into themselves instead of common girls”, mother provides practical strategies to promote empathy and friendliness in children. Here are some snack bars:

• Model inclusion: Children decrease behavior from adults in their lives. When parents clap, exclude them or react with hostility, their children are likely to reflect these actions. Instead, demonstrate friendliness by taking diversity in your own friendships and social circles.

• Promote empathy: Help your child step into someone else by asking questions such as, How do you think she felt when it happened? This promotes emotional intelligence and helps children recognize the effects of their actions.

• Praise goodness, not just performance: Move the focus of external success (like the best athlete or the most popular student) to internal values ​​such as a good friend and the insertion for others.

• Reference to assertiveness, not aggression: There is a difference between getting up for yourself and others. Encourage your child to communicate his feelings and needs while respecting others.

• Help you recognize poisonous behavior: Sometimes girls go hand in hand with common behavior, for fear of becoming the next goal. Teach them to identify exclusion measures and to say the courage to say: That is not okay.
  

• Create a culture of inclusion: Encourage playdates, group activities and events that bring together different social groups. When children learn to mix with different colleagues at an early stage, they later appreciate the inclusiveness.

As parents, teachers and role models, we have the power to form the next generation of girls into self -confident, supportive managers. The incident with viral prom dress is a heartbreaking memory of why we have to actively fight against the common girls' culture. It starts at home, with the values ​​we convey to our children every day.

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Let us raise girls who know that trust is not about going down others – it's about lifting everyone.