Five tips to find out what really brings you joy outside of work

London, March 1 (the conversation) not too long ago I took part in a concert. It was a band that I had been waiting for a while to see her and I was excited to be there in the crowd. Through part they played my favorite song and I noticed that I felt something else.

It felt like a climax in which the emotion of joy felt expansive and unstoppable. At that moment I felt more alive with all my senses of my surroundings and yet much more connected to the core of the one I know myself.

For the first time I started finding joy as if Joy was waiting out there in the world we find it. However, the history of the concert shows us that this is not the case.

Not everyone likes the band that I saw and not everyone in concert had the same experience as me. This tells us that joy is more personal, an insider job and not something that we should find outside of ourselves.

The psychologist Chris Meadows suggests that joy is a feeling that, from looking at an event in our life, is made as useful for us or good for us.

Joy is not just a unique experience, according to Meadows there are different types of joy. In his joy, he studies the subdued experience of “Serene Joy”, which aims to restore or maintain the balance in the body. Then there is “excited joy” that is connected to the goals.

“Individated joy” is felt alone, while “affiliative joy” is shared with others. Meadow's study on the phenomenon of joy suggests that social experiences of joy occur more frequently than solo and lead to what we know as binding experiences.

“Preservation joy” occurs when the fulfillment of a goal is imminent and then “perfect joy” occurs when the goal has been reached. There is also an element that feels blessed or that what has been achieved has exceeded expectations.

In addition to the thinking processes that lead to pleasure, there are many other elements that must be available. Safe, familiar surroundings allow us to be present at the moment to support relaxed balance. If we feel safe and relaxed, we can laugh and play more and explore new ideas.

Playfulness that is aimless, but leads to rather predictable results, enables us to switch off our inner critics and to concentrate on the good feeling of being at the moment. This brings a feeling of lightness, whatever happens, requires very little effort from our side.

Here you will find five tips on how you can find out what enjoys you in the many forms: 1. Be “at the moment” easy to say, but more difficult to do.

There is joy in the present, so we have to be there to experience it. This could mean that we sometimes give the phone and do not have to post or watch something while doing that we immerse yourself in the here and now. This is about making our own experiences more important than the “likes” of others.

2. Listen your inner voice next and switch on the volume of your inner voice.

Since joy is unique for each of us, we have to hear our own voice to find out what we will bring. It helps to create specificity about the goals that we strive for in the future so that we can make it clear what we want to achieve.

I love the topic of melody for the pirates of the Caribbean and would like to be able to play it on the piano. To make this goal specific, I have to decide what my success criteria are. It could be that I want to play to the end without stopping, or I want to come at the end without stopping and playing all grades on the grades without mistakes. Only I can know if I feel more joyful by scoring the second destination over the first time.

To be specific means, we will clearly know when this target fulfillment is either imminent or reached. The more specific we are, the better. The same applies to considering the experiences that have brought us joy in the past. By thinking about these experiences, we can learn things about ourselves that lead us to be able to create more joy.

3. Don't listen to your inner critic. It does not help to switch off your inner critic or at least switch off the volume.

It is not possible to be playful and feel safe and free while we are constantly censoring. Tell the inner critic that it is okay to be you.

4. Find your trunk, these are people who enjoy the same things as you. With other people who are like us, it enables us to feel more freely to express us in a way that matches who we are.

5. Finally switch on the little things, pay attention to the little things because they are actually the big things. Joy comes from the most unexpected places. By noticing when we feel joy, we can create more of these experiences in our lives so that we can really experience this joie de vivre (joie de vivre). (The conversation) NSA NSA