She wanted to honor her grandpa with her wedding date, but Grandma says she does the opposite »Twistedsifter

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It was often said that funerals are for the living.

But what about other events related to death?

Who is honored and how? And if you don't see it that way, should you still go through it?

These are just a few of the questions that are in this bride and the groom.

Listen to.

My niece would like to marry my parents' anniversary next year what she sees as an honor, especially since my father died in 2022.

He was like a father for her and she is disappointed that he won't be there to go down the corridor.

A sweet feeling, but not everyone was on board:

However, my mother told her that she was not enthusiastic about this decision and would prefer to choose another date.

At first my mother said it feels like the date was taken away by her that it will no longer be about her and her deceased husband, but about my niece and her new husband.

She explained that it will be very difficult for her to be at a wedding what her 56th anniversary should have been and does not have her husband at her side.

Complete understandable reservations.

When I asked my sister (my niece's mother) if she chose another date, I was told that there were no plans to change it if the venue cannot do so.

I tried to explain to her that our mother was not honored by this decision or happily and that she should change the date, but her answer was: “But it is to honor father.”

I said there are other ways to honor our father and make him part of the moment without taking this day away from our mother.

It doesn't seem to be right to do something to honor a person (who is dead) at the expense of someone who has to go through the emotional/painful moment.

Basically, I was told that my niece has its reasons to want this date, and the day becomes difficult regardless of it, but the wedding with make it happy memory.

Basically I was told that I should just handle it

So who is wrong and who is right?

Am I wrong to suggest that she selects another date because it is injured for my mother?

I just don't understand how she can see it as an honor to do it at her anniversary when my mother said she was not happy about it and could actually be injured by the decision.

Let us see some answers:

If you want to get involved, it naturally sounds like this:

What are the real motifs here?

Something does not add up.

Doesn't seem as if this ends with many winners.

I am invested to know how it all.

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